As currently I need to examine career options, I find myself pondering life and times as a carer. On one hand, to the outside world, it often seems a personal sacrifice to dedicate one’s life to the nursing or personal care of another, even a loved one. In my own case my Father. Over the years I have noted the “rather you than me” attitude from some other people.
 I’ve seen it many times though, when you give to another, you receive more in return. As such, there are cases when the carer has just as great a need of the caree. I am now encountering the “other side” of the DHSS..The first question I got tended to cause some resentment on my part, even though normally I don’t take these things personally. That question being..”Is there any reason you can’t work?” To interpret at face value, the implication that things one does as a carer is NOT considered work.
I wonder how we come accross to would be employers after years of “time out” caring. It’s not as though one can apply for a job at Natwest, for example, and can boast, if that’s the right word, years of previous banking experience with likes of Barclays ect. Other words, we are lacking in recent commercial experience. To the outside world, we appear to have opted out of society, and now are knocking on the door to re-enter. But are we locked out, or locked in? Do we actually want to re-enter commercial society, if it means our loved one’s have now departed? Nearly always, it’s a financial neccessity, even if it means facing up to being thought of as just another unemployed statistic.
I liken the scenario to that of two instances of “Spartacus”, first one scene from the film, which relates to the caree. In the film it was escaped galdiator Spartacus intention to free fellow slaves, form a gladiator army, march to the sea, fighting battles along the way, and buy ships to flee the land of slave tyranny, and escape to their homes accross the sea. In this scene in my mind, he is joined by a dubious looking Arab Sultan, to negotiate a price for the ships in which to escape. After concluding the bargain, the Arab, worried that by the time he assembles the ships the slave army will be wpied out, tells Spartacus,before leaving, “You do know, don’t you, you are going to lose?” Spartacus replied “we are not going to lose.” Arab; “You have no chance..They will send one army after another against you until they defeat you! Let me put it another way..If you could look into a crystal ball and see you are going to die, would you go on with this?” Spartacus; “Yes.” Arab; “Even though you know you are going to die?” Spartacus; All men lose when they die. But when a free man dies and a slave dies, they lose different things. When a free man dies he loses the pleasure of life. When a slave dies, all he loses is his pain. That’s why we’re fighting them, and that’s why we’ll win.”
My interpretation of that into the careree’s situation is not to do with euthanasia, or even death, but merely to go on living. All the gladiator army could do was to fight to go on living. If they fought and died they were also free, so they could not lose.  Sometimes, where there is loss of one’s faculties, or loss of dignity, if there is only one thing you can do in your life, make sure you enjoy doing it. If you can only sing a song, make  sure you can be heard singing it.
The second scenario is not the film Spartacus, but the actual story of Spartacus. Unlike Kirk Douglas film icon, Spartacus actually succeeded in marching accross the mountains, to freedom. They defeated all before them, until the end of their journey was in sight. YET, instead of marching home, they incredibly turned back and marched again though Italy, until eventually meeting their end at the hands of the Roman legions. Why then, did they do that? When it was within their power to escape, why not do it? And to choose almost certain death instead?
My interpretation is that they were a gladiator army. If not that, in the free world, what would they be? Nothing. At least, that is the temptation to perceive oneslf in the eyes of the free world. Spartacus was the gladiator leader, a major figure to his army. Yet in the free world, just another man, perhaps…. And so to the ex carer, looking to re-join the commercial world..